Real Life Wedding Planning: Part 5
On December 23, 2011 I finally got married. After months of planning, drama, and stress, it’s over. It went perfectly, even better than we thought that it would. The ceremony was beautiful, the dinner delicious, and the guests entertaining and supportive. The schedule that I had been working on for weeks was followed exactly, to my surprise.
After the ceremony I expected to feel like a wife. I thought there would be some sort of feeling of relief, or a ‘walking on the clouds’ sort of atmosphere. Instead, I feel exactly the same as always. It makes sense, seeing as we have been living together for 5 years, we bought a house together, and have been raising three animals for 4 years. There’s not much difference in being a wife compared to a fiancé or girlfriend. Perhaps it would have been different if we had gone on a honeymoon.
Since the wedding I have had to decide if I am going to change my last name to my husband’s. At this point, I have decided to keep my maiden name the way it is. Perhaps one day I will change it, when we have kids or it gets too complicated to have different names, but I am proud of my name and I’m not ready to give it up.
The best part of the wedding was the dinner afterwards. We had an intimate dinner of 10 people in a private room. It was cozy and everyone was happy. The food was great, our hostess was amazing, and there were smiles all around. It was great to sit at the same table as everyone else and to be able to enjoy all of them at the same time. It was the first time that Kyle’s mother met mine and it was wonderful to see our two families together.
The worst part was that it was my last night with my mom in Alberta. She left of December 24th, and we are very close. It broke my heart knowing that she had to leave, but I have a little sister in Ontario who needed her over Christmas more than I did. It was hard to take her to the airport the next morning, but she made such a difference in my wedding that I am just glad she came, even if only for a few days. She remembered things like painting my toenails, getting sparkly things for my hair, she did my make-up and hair, and she took on a good amount of responsibility to help me out. It wouldn’t have been the same without her, and even though I rolled my eyes at her insistence that I wear lipstick and satin shoes, I am glad that she made me do it.
Unfortunately there is still a touch of drama surrounding our wedding and our choices, but it was exactly what we wanted and we couldn’t have asked for more. We enjoyed ourselves immensely and wouldn’t have changed a thing. Now all I have to do is get used to saying ‘husband’.
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