It was a truly a pleasure meeting Gail at last year’s Bridal Fantasy. I sincerely recommend that if you ever get a chance to see/hear Gail speak at any event, it is definitely worth all the effort. She is not only witty and intelligent, she is beautifully charismatic as well. So as I promised, here it is folks . . . the second part of Gail’s article Married and Moving Forward (If you didn’t catch Part 1 of this blog series, make sure you do before you proceed to Part 2!) . . .
Step #1: “Talk to your partner. Now that you’re part of a family, you can’t go off half-cocked, assuming your buddy is on the same page as you. You’ve got to talk about it. Sit down and discuss what kind of timeline you each have in mind.
Your new life partner may want to have children, but may want to wait a year or four until you’re settled in a home of your own. You, on the other hand, may be dying to get pregnant.” Step #2 “Is to work out a time frame that meets both your needs.”
Which brings us to Step #3: “make a plan that lets you achieve this dream without putting your new family at risk financially. Will you live on one income and bank the rest so you can save up for a down payment on a home? Will you practice living on one income so that when a baby does come along you have a big fat slush fund to supplement your paltry maternity benefits? Will you delay your family long enough to get your student loans paid off? Figure out what’s important to both of you and plan together to make your real life work.”
“Now that you’re married and moving forward together, you can use each other’s strengths to keep you on track. Share your dreams. Talk about your expectations. And make a plan that takes you from where you are now to where you want to be. Working as a team, you can make all your dreams come true.”