Resources used:
http://www.somethingoldsomethingnew.co.uk/

We’ve heard the same story time and time again, you’ve been with your significant other for years and now you’re scared that he will never ask that four-word question you’ve been dying to hear for so long. If you’ve been dating for a while and you two are clearly right for each other, you need to figure out what is holding him back and help him to see that you are The One.

Fear of commitment can definitely hold a guy back from settling down. It isn’t that he doesn’t love you, but that he is afraid that as soon as he settles down, he will meet the “perfect” women and regret his decision to get married. The best thing to do is give him time and avoid pressuring him. You don’t want to push him even further from the idea of marriage by making him feel you are trying to force him to marry you. Try to be understanding of his fear, but also let him know that it’s not realistic and fair of him to make you wait forever. One healthy way to do this is to just be yourself – be the woman he fell in love with. This should help him see that you are his “perfect” woman.

Many people hate or fear change as its affects can be so unpredictable. This applies to marriage too -some men really fear the changes that will come with life after marriage. He might feel like he’ll lose time with his friends and family after he ties the knot. If the two of you spend everyday together, try giving him more space and freedom to spend time with his family and friends. Help him too see that marriage will not rob him of the time he needs to explore his interests and spend time with his friends.

Aside from a fear of commitment, there is an opposite force at play too in some cases. A sense of chivalry. Even in today’s modern society, men still instinctively feel the need to provide and care for their wives and families. He might still be looking for his dream job, and may not think it would be fair to marry you just yet. However, if you know that with all his passion, intelligence, and skills there is nothing that will prevent him in securing his dream job, show him that you are in for the long haul, and that you want to work with him to overcome any of the obstacles that might get in the way. Let him to see that working with you to mold the future you both dream of will make the life you’ve created with each other so much more meaningful.

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